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Why is honesty so hard. Why is speaking up about how we feel so hard. Why is having certain conversations about money so hard. Why can't we look people in the eye and tell them the actual thoughts we are having? The amount of time and negative energy that could be saved by having open and honest conversations about how we really feel and want is unmeasurable. Personally I feel it is everything else that goes along with being honest...  the look in some one's eyes as they tear up from getting their feelings hurt, the attitude that comes from a friends or significant other still trying to digest what was said. Being honest sometimes shows a difference in opinion and for whatever reason people feel like ca they can't get past their differences. It is definitely easier to keep your opinion and thoughts to yourself. For me personally I like to know how the people around me feel about me and some of my actions. When you are not honest with me about me and how I make you feel

Femme Diaries: Relationships, Health & Sex

We now have a link for tickets to be purchased the event is officially on Eventbrite under "Femme Diaries"  We really brought this event to life and it started with me having an opinion that I thought would be helpful. On a whim I created I an email address and honestly I think we need to get the other social media handles. Lets just start and see how this first even goes. As you can see the event will be held at Jack Rabbit which was a great choice considering exercise is going to help bring everything full circle and be one of the contributing factors for better relationships, sex and mental well being. There will definitely be some drinks as well as food we can not have a discussion about men and sex without drinks right?! We even have assembled a few guys to come and give us a few gems from a man's perspective. Raffles and giveaways will also be happening. Please join us for a great time. Feel free to follow us all on social media and ask all the questions. @frisky
I don't do enough posting in the moment and I am really trying to work on reporting back to the blog. And I want to go on record about the event I am currently planning and everything I am feeing right now. Femme Diaries is going to be a name and event that is going to go so much further than what we are imagining right now. Tiff and Shaunie I feel like we are in for one hell of a ride. And it is crazy random and dope that we are the ones chosen to get our individual messages out together. I can not wait to see what is in store and what we can manifest for each other. When I created the gmail account I already saw it happening. NYC please save the date of October 4th we are planning something so crazy dope. Please believe that you will have another opportunity because something is telling me that this is the first of many Femme Diaries. Things happen for you when you follow her heart. Each and everyone of us has multiple gifts planted in them but it is necessary for you to do the s

End Of August Thoughts...

Here's my sorry its been a while but I'm back post... Now that that's out of the way. Major side eye Charity smh I have basically been on this little high since my birthday. With out pouring my whole heart on social media I will say your girl felt very loved and it makes such an impact because I have always felt a little left out in the family department. Especially being in New York without mine. I definitely have a better sense of belonging and that felt stronger than ever this year. So some of you knew that I needed a computer like forever ago and ya girl was gifted one for her birthday (insert high pitch screaming). The amount of work that I have been able to get done has almost shocked me. Our phones are pretty convenient and we get a lot done but there is nothing like opening up your computer with 13 windows open and bouncing back and forth between them all. I've started on my fitness website and within a week have been able to knock a lot of it out. I&#

Language Spells

I challenge you to change your language.  A worthy topic in the conversation of weight loss is our language. Your language and tone come into play in any other relationship the one with food should be no different. It's been proven that changing your language can change your mood so let's concentrate on our language about food to alter our mood in a good way. I believe there are trigger statements that change your mindset to thinking you can't do certain things until a certain amount of weight off your body. You shouldn't wait to do anything because of weight unless it jeopardizes your health. The statement reads as if a person that is heavier can't possibly be happy living their life. 1. Let's change "I have to workout" to "I get to workout" Being appreciative about your body and what it is capable of doing may have you not hating your workout as much. Some bodies can not work out even if they wanted to and I believe that

Alive! Expo in Atlanta

On Saturday May 18 I had the pleasure of speaking on a panel and being the Keynote speaker at the Alive! Expo in Atlanta Georgia. This expo was great. There were so many vendors, products, and people that were representing products and organizations that contribute to living a healthier lifestyle. Young Living was the company that brought me out and took great care of me. If you are unfamiliar with them and their products they and exstensive line of essential oils that cater almost every aspect of your life. Please check out their products here The topic of the panel discussion that was hosted by @rosiemercado was wellness in diverese communities. We addressed some really difficult topics about wellness in our communities. Here is just a couple of questions that we addressed: What do you see as potential challenges that exits for diverse communities when we talk about accessing information and tools needed to create wellness? How can corporations, influencers, and

Bestie Time!

How many of you have an out of town bestie?! I have a few and it really sucks lol I have a set of girls in Tacoma and Portland spending most of my high school years in Tacoma, Washington also did two years Skagit Valley which is two hours north of Tacoma, then transferred to Portland Oregon to do my last two years of college there while playing basketball and ended up staying in the area. So naturally I have people that have been through these crazy times with me that have earned the bestie title. I actually have besties by state and then a special group of people that I call my village. Curently I am in Bakersfield Ca with my "Cali Bestie". I met her while in college in Portland she is orginially from California. Her son turned three on the 23rd and it was Paw Patrol Central this weekend lol Ms Kerlisha had the joy of attending I have to admit I hate that for her first time in California had to Bakersfield but this was personal I'd go visit this friend any where on the

Fun Work Weekend

So a couple of weekends ago I went to Middlebury VT with my ace doing a pop-up for natural hair. Christal Brown originally got her hair done at the salon Kerlisha and I worked at together and she asked if we would be interested in coming and doing hair for the students of color here. We ended up doing a lot of hair for the black children that are adpopted as well as the residents and students at Middlebury College. The program covers the cost of travel and lodging and they ask that we lower our pricing which we obviously had no problem doing considering they brought us here. We had quite the experience here. Clearly a change of pace and culture but it is something that we will do again. They really don't have the resources here to get their hair done and get the care that it needs so having us come for a couple days was amazing for them. It was also a dry run for K and C Natural Pop Up without us losing out on money. We were able to get a feel of what it would be like being on the


Today while getting lost in my thoughts I realized I took the rhythm out of my writing. You have to write in a pattern and at regular scheduled times. I lost that, I stopped doing that so please excuse me while I catch you up and get back my rhythm. I actually really miss writing poems but I need a different kind of inspiration for those lines and it doesn't always come to me when I'd like. There will be a moment when I can write phrases or a line but getting something to come before or after sometimes is the hardest task for me. Writing my day and thoughts is different a little easier lol I can tell you my feelings based on what happened and how it makes me feel but poetry takes a certain level creativity that doesn't always like to be present. You really have to do things on a consistent bases for a period of time and it will become a habit and be a part of what you do. Another reason why these short entries are my starting point. AGAIN. But I'm ok with my failures be

Is This Happening ?!

Oh snap day two! I already am making progress ya'll lol. Still havent figured out the frequency yet but we will take this one day at a time. The majority of my day was spent with my business partner trying to figure out a few things. I have started a hair business with someone I used to be collegues with. We both were working at a natural hair salon and that space closed and we were kinda forced to start our own salon :) I am extremely lucky because that collegue is my best friend! We definitely get on each others nerves but the whole process and journey has been quite interesting. Just picture it.... there you are just living your life making plans and taking care of business when your boss/shop owner says "shop is closing I'm moving back to my apartment to do hair and that is happening in a week" ...right? imagine our surprise. Honeslty Kerlisha and I wanted to go out and do our own thing anyways but it was something we thought we were months even years away from do

So let's try this again...

I swear I have been "starting my blog" for 7 years now. I know I am not the only one that  makes solid attempts to get more serious about posting on a more consistent basis. It has been very hard for me to keep it up and what I find even more interesting is that is how I got started, I would write articles and my management would get them placed on sites etc. smh Well my attempt to get started and more consistent is to take the some of the formality out of every single post. What I struggle with the most is I want people to have different content on each platform. And honestly that is work! In addition to my work work lol But as time is moving along I am finding my way. So at this point all I can do is be honest and open about this journey. Here you will find more of my thoughts on what is happening in my world along tips and rants that you can identity with. All questions and comments are welcomed. Thank you in advance for your patience. I promise it will be good. (inser